The more you expand your power to those around you, the more powerful you become.
True power isn’t individual. Exceptional leaders exponentially expand influence through the empowerment of those around them. Authoritarian, top down leaders, are limited to their own knowledge and skill. Collaborative leadership is limitless; it has endless capacity.
Don’t lead by your title or organizational authority. If you truly want to lead, do so through trust, respect, and service. Model the behavior you desire from others; lead with humility, kindness, and love.
Grit is believing in yourself. Without belief, you will give up.
We hear a lot about grit these days. We know we are living in a global, rapidly changing world that demands we learn from mistakes. We are going to fail . . . we are going to miss the mark from time to time.
When we live our lives with purpose, when our values are in alignment with our behaviors, we don’t give up. When we believe in the work we are doing, when we are committed to the Power of the Team, we demonstrate grit. If something is worth doing, you must believe in it. When you are purpose-driven, and you have trust in your team, you will persevere and do the work together.
An extraordinary life is created by stringing together extraordinary days.
There is no shortcut to success. There is no path to elite that doesn’t include failures, obstacles, and struggles. Our life’s journey is marked with successes, failures, and constant learning. The students in our schools must find both success and experience failures as learning experiences. School is a safe place . . . a place specifically designed to learn through experience.
For every student in our buildings to live extraordinary lives, we are required to balance goals and process. It isn’t about the single action; it’s not the success of today. What creates extraordinary is the commitment to be discipline and focused each day. When we are the best version of us today, it is extraordinary. When we act with purpose day after day, we can achieve great success. Make today extraordinary.
Our attention tells the brain what to repeat. Thus, to encourage excellence we must “spotlight the right.”
What we think, our self-talk, determines how we behave. Negative people, those who are always focused on other’s faults and blame everyone else for their troubles, unknowingly sentence themselves to negative lives. Negativity is a cycle. More importantly, negative people spread their negativity to others.
Positive people, those who “spotlight the right” and share gratitude for others, are tipping the scale for success in their favor. Brain research confirms, the chemical composition of our brains change when we are positive. We are healthier, happier, and more successful when we discipline our thoughts to focus on the positive aspects of our lives.
The science is clear. There is no reason to be undisciplined and permit ourselves to dwell in negative, critical behaviors. Be intentional. Remove yourself from negative environments and be discipline in your self-talk.
Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions. – Dalai Lama
There is no easy way to find happiness. We’ve all heard, the best things in life are often the most difficult. Happiness is up to you. It isn’t found in a self-help, or motivational book unless you are willing to do the work. The path to success demands that we both have vision for the journey and do the work along the way.
We must teach our children that true success demands hard work, skillful action, and discipline decisions. Our success is dependent on us, on our ability to work in teams, and on a commitment to excellence. No one succeeds alone . . . but each individual must stand up and own their actions.
For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness – Ralph Waldo Emerson
No one is happy all the time.
I’ve heard Shawn Achor and Michelle Gielan – two bestselling authors and researchers on the topic of happiness, who are also married to each other – share that they aren’t always happy. We all face sorrow, grief, and anger in our lives. We live in a broken world and pain is part of life.
What makes some people happier than others is how we respond the grief, sorrow, and stress. Do we have support systems, friends, and colleagues who lift us up? Do we have a mindset to respond to appropriate action? Do we have the tools, the discipline, to shift anger into action? To shift from self to service? When we stay angry we lose opportunities to seek happiness.
The person we have the greatest power to change is ourselves. – Shawn Achor
I can make a long list of the people, and ways, that need to change. I can pontificate on the structural obstacles that stand in the way of real progress. I can grouse about obstinate groups resisting advancement. It’s easy for me to join the blame and complaining bandwagon as I defend my own lack of actions. It’s a common cycle.
Let’s be honest. I can’t change vitriolic Facebook posts or the angry emails that arrive in my inbox. What I can do is embrace the change I want others to see. I can engage hate with care. I can temper emotions with facts. I can be discipline in my behavior where others act out of untempered impulsivity. I have the greatest opportunity to change me . . . the opportunity to model the change we’d like to see in others. If we are “to be the change we want to see in the world”, we must be willing to change ourselves.