Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions. – Dalai Lama
There is no easy way to find happiness. We’ve all heard, the best things in life are often the most difficult. Happiness is up to you. It isn’t found in a self-help, or motivational book unless you are willing to do the work. The path to success demands that we both have vision for the journey and do the work along the way.
We must teach our children that true success demands hard work, skillful action, and discipline decisions. Our success is dependent on us, on our ability to work in teams, and on a commitment to excellence. No one succeeds alone . . . but each individual must stand up and own their actions.
For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness – Ralph Waldo Emerson
No one is happy all the time.
I’ve heard Shawn Achor and Michelle Gielan – two bestselling authors and researchers on the topic of happiness, who are also married to each other – share that they aren’t always happy. We all face sorrow, grief, and anger in our lives. We live in a broken world and pain is part of life.
What makes some people happier than others is how we respond the grief, sorrow, and stress. Do we have support systems, friends, and colleagues who lift us up? Do we have a mindset to respond to appropriate action? Do we have the tools, the discipline, to shift anger into action? To shift from self to service? When we stay angry we lose opportunities to seek happiness.
The person we have the greatest power to change is ourselves. – Shawn Achor
I can make a long list of the people, and ways, that need to change. I can pontificate on the structural obstacles that stand in the way of real progress. I can grouse about obstinate groups resisting advancement. It’s easy for me to join the blame and complaining bandwagon as I defend my own lack of actions. It’s a common cycle.
Let’s be honest. I can’t change vitriolic Facebook posts or the angry emails that arrive in my inbox. What I can do is embrace the change I want others to see. I can engage hate with care. I can temper emotions with facts. I can be discipline in my behavior where others act out of untempered impulsivity. I have the greatest opportunity to change me . . . the opportunity to model the change we’d like to see in others. If we are “to be the change we want to see in the world”, we must be willing to change ourselves.
Without action, knowledge is often meaningless. – Shawn Achor
How many times do we know what needs to be done, but don’t have the courage or don’t put forth the effort to do it? We read books, examine case studies, and create plans. We hold task force meetings, engage with experts, and create implementation charts. Too often great planning documents are rolled-out, but action is never taken.
As my friend Brian Kight often says, “do the work.” Taking action is difficult, especially in school systems. Resistance to change is embedded into the fabric of many school cultures. From administrative turnover to community fear of change, from lack of professional training to political pressure, schools know that change is demanded to improve perforation. This knowledge is meaningless if we don’t “do the work.” It is time to take action, embrace the discomfort of change, and do what’s required of us.
If we study what is merely average, we will remain merely average. – Shawn Achor
There is a reason that we seek-out elite programs and organizations. There is a reason we engage on a state and national level with school districts that have achieved at the highest levels. We don’t want to emulate those who merely do it well; we want to learn from the best of the best.
It is essential that we all look outside the walls of our own organization; that we look beyond districts that are in our own geographic area. No single district is elite in all areas; we must carefully select those we want to study. We build relationships, share data, and gather information. We take what we learn and bring it back to our own district. We must collaborate with the best to be the best.
Happiness is not the belief that we don’t need to change; it’s the realization that we can. – Shawn Achor
In our daily experiences we encounter people who are seemingly on a quest for happiness. For some, the quest for happiness is a destination. Be it the perfect job or retirement . . . that one big purchase or finding the right partner . . . for some life seems to be a never-ending quest for the finish line of work.
I strive to be happy with life, with dailies opportunity to live a purposeful life, and with a mindset that celebrates getting better. We live lives of imperfection, but we embrace the joy of collaboration and growth. We can’t chase a moment without the happiness of the journey. Life is too short to let one-day pass without being happy. Live, love, and learn each and every day!
Always do more than is required of you. – George S. Patton
We all know people who do the minimum. Colleagues and coworkers who do exactly what is required of them but nothing more. We all know people who work to the contract; people that believe it is “fair” to do only what is asked of them.
Don’t be that person. Always do more . . . give of yourself . . . serve others. When you give more than the minimum others notice. Don’t tell others you are doing more – just do it. If each of us give a little more than what is required we will perform at higher level. Our organizations, our families, will be better places for everyone.