“Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out.” – Robert Tew
Research clearly demonstrates that the person we talk to the most, on a daily basis, is ourselves. The Mayo Clinic defines self-talk as “the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head . . . they can be positive or negative.” Furthermore, “if your thoughts are mostly positive, you’re likely an optimist – a someone who practices positive thinking.”
Research is clear – positive self-talk has a statistically significant impact on performance. Furthermore, it has both a physical and a mental affect on performance. Optimism both literally and figuratively pays dividends in performance. This is why it is so important to remove yourself from those who simply Blame, Complain, and Defend (BCD). BCD has never solved a problem or strengthened a relationship – so don’t do it and don’t associate with those who may bring you down.
Negative and toxic people are like parasites – they drain your energy and plant negative thoughts in your head. Negative people, energy vampires, live off your energy. These people seek to multiply and bring others down to their level. We must win the battle to stay above the line; we must purposefully place distance between the toxic people and those who have passion for growth.
Today – starting right now – prepare yourself for battle. Prepare yourself to take on the negative, toxic people in your live. Have the courage to have some courageous conversations. Be prepared to say, “If you continue to be negative I’m not going to engage in this conversation” – and walk away.
Raise the rent – kick them out!